The Empowering Circle of Honesty
Honesty - a key quality for transformation
Excerpt from the upcoming publication:
"Keys for transformation
changing the perceptual premise as a key for
crossing a threshold"
Transformation - the willingness to change
When one chooses to go through a process of transformation, he chooses a path of development where he devotes himself and is willing to change, allowing his psyche and self to undergo a process of growth, refinement, and conversion.
This choice holds a personal commitment towards the development of the self. This obligation holds a consent to express a movement that is dynamic, rather than stagnant, moving through life’s path, with devotion, enabling and openness towards the new.
For more about the Empowering Circle of Allowing: read here
The process of transformation changes the psyche and allows oneself to be born, every time, anew, to shed emotional attributes, change one's worldview and way of thinking, substitute limiting manners of conduct, awaken within a new expression and release expressions that have served their purpose.
This is a process that expresses motion from one level of consciousness to another, opening oneself, each time, to a new spectrum of consciousness, awareness, understandings and emotions that hold within an ever-revealing breadth, refreshing point of view, and sublime and subtle emotions that were previously unavailable.
The process of transformation and ascension begins with a willingness to contain that man is a multidimensional entity, multi-faceted and layered, whose development is not limited by a glass ceiling. The recognition that the human entity is not absolute or fixed, allows one to adapt to a new perception that sees the self as a dynamic essence that can change and expose, in every developmental stage, new expression and attributes that were previously inaccessible.
The principle of continuity
Transformation is a continuous process, in which it is important not to maintain any inner gaps or disconnection. In the continuous process, every new developmental stage emanates harmoniously from a previous step that has established a solid and stable internal foundation.
The recurring exposure to a new developmental stage often undermines conventions, assumptions, norms, habits, and stipulations that belong to the previous developmental stage.
In such a situation, one has to rely and lean on the inner foundation and use it as a motivating force allowing one to transcend the limitations of the psyche and release patterns of conduct, thought and emotion that do not serve the new stage.
Within the willingness to look inward and observe the self, with honesty, directness, and clarity, is based upon a willingness to shed light on the area of observation.
When an observed area maintains a state of disharmony towards the self, observing it may stir up pain, which signals the existence of disharmony, discord and a turn against the self. When pain arises, it is required to contain it and pass through it, since it constitutes a gate for the transformation of the mental and emotional area that is being observed and illuminated by the conscious, observing human eye that creates and generates change.
The return to harmony, development, transformation and healing, is encouraged by shedding light through the honest willingness to observe
For more about passing through pain - read here
Recognizing that honesty is a willingness to heal, to be cured and release limiting mental and emotional baggage, is essential. It allows one to acknowledge that by not being honest with himself or with others, he does not let the healing and development to take place, inhibiting the process of transformation and the ability to fulfill oneself in an enhanced way.
When one is not honest with himself or with others and maintains concealment mechanisms, he preserves within himself areas he does not touch. As such, these areas do not receive light and remain in the shadows, hidden and devoid of progress, healing, and transformation, resulting in inner enclaves expressing a gap in different areas of the psyche that do not correspond with the process of transformation he wishes to create.
Preserving such internal gaps leads to an inability to cross a threshold, causing frustration, and strengthening feelings of insignificance and victimism, that distances one from the path of development enhancing motion in a closed circle.
The process of transformation is meant to unite one's different parts, binding them around the distilled self that is connected to the soul, and allow one to operate as an integrative entity whose various parts are coordinated, maintaining harmony, significance and wholeness.
The advanced stages of the transformation process expose the individual to an ability to maintain continuum of communication with the soul, to settle internal conflict which originates from a consciousness of separateness, insufficiency, insignificance, and ego, as well as coordinate himself to a holistic state of being that maintains harmonic interactions within himself and with others.
Preserving inner gaps as hidden and repressed enclaves does not allow one to reach these developmental stages, leading one to experience the absence of inner peace, duality, conflict, and lack of well-being.
The willingness to undermine dependence in a perceptual premise that is limited or distorted
Every individual has a perceptual premise from which he sets out on his life path. The perceptual premise influences the perception of the personal reality, as well as the reciprocal relationships one has with himself and others.
There are perceptual premises that are basic assumptions tied to the distilled self and represent a broad perspective and high consciousness, and there are those tied to ego and represent a detached and polarized consciousness and a narrow and limited perspective.
The internal gaps, constituting hidden and repressed enclaves that one is not honest, transparent and direct about, are a result of holding unto a perceptual premise that does not correspond to the transformational process and the consciousness one seeks to assimilate within his psyche and into his life.
The internal gaps are tied to belief systems that are a product of a perceptual premise that the ego clings to, in order to preserve an existing state.
The willingness to undermine the hold over a limited or distorted perceptual premise, connected to the ego and hindering the transition towards a new developmental stage, is fundamental and it is this willingness that allows one to cross a threshold and position himself with indisputability and assertion on a new inner level.
How to undermine a limiting perceptual premise?
By observing the premise standing at the basis of the perceived reality, a genuine willingness to recognize that it is not absolute and asking questions of essence that undermine the basic assumptions.
For example: if we identified that the perceptual premise is “life is a battle and a struggle for resources.”
At the first stage, we will examine the basic assumptions stemming from the perception of this reality:
The world is a realm of war and struggle between selfish and separate forces, fighting over resources, control, power, and territory. “life is a jungle”, Homo homini lupus (man is a wolf to man), “only the strong survive”, “one thing comes at the expense of something else.”
At the second stage, we will examine the emotions and states of being that influence the mental traits and manner of conduct:
In this kind of reality I sense a state of survival, fear and insufficiency, suspicion and distrust, and therefore I am focused on myself, in a selfish and dissociated level, busy םobtaining resources that will sustain me and provide a sense of security.
I preserve aggressive qualities that will allow me to clear a path within the constant state of war. I worry about betrayal, breach of trust and revenge; therefore I do not devote myself to the interactions that come my way.
In the third stage we will agree to challenge the perceptual premise and the basic assumptions that stem from it:
Is life just war and a struggle for resources? Is man always a wolf to man? Do only the strong survive? Is the world a jungle? And does one thing necessarily come at the expense of something else?
Asking these questions raises and encourages the realization that reality is not absolute and that there are other variations of reality that do not correspond with the perceptual premise and the basic assumptions stemming from it.
The next question of essence will be: what perspective do I choose? What reality do I choose? Which reality do I choose to nourish?
The willingness to challenge the perceptual premise and understand its effects, allows us to begin to let go of our hold on it.
When we adhere to a perceptual premise identified with the ego’s agenda, transformation won't occur, and the ego will try to hold on to the perceptual premise that defines it, and is related to a set of automatic habits and stipulations that the ego is connected to and feeds off.
Realizing this enables us to conduct an honest process that transforms limiting belief systems from their core, shift the weight to the inner reality we wish to nourish and nurture, change habits, stipulations, and addictions, and transform mental traits connected to the perceptual premise undergoing change and transformation.
It is important to remember that adhering to an absolute and constricted worldview, does not permit the exposure to the many different and diverse possibilities that are hidden from the individual that is held captive by the perception of his reality. Therefore, many human beings are trapped within their perception of reality because they are unaware of the possibilities beyond their perception.
For example, a person holding a perceptual premise that the world is a belligerent and survivalistic realm struggling for resources will maintain within himself a consciousness of insufficiency and survival.
When that person is not honest with himself, and maintains concealment mechanisms and is unaware of the outcomes stemming from the insufficiency and survival consciousness, he will sustain an inner enclave of competitiveness, stinginess, jealousy, and comparativeness preventing him from being exposed to windows of opportunity opening up before him that represent a reality of generosity, encouragement, and acceptance of different and diverse others.
It is important to recognize that concealment mechanisms create a state where the person is unable to see a broad spectrum of possibilities, and he is left trapped in a limited realm that is a product of the concealment he is creating.
Honesty - a key quality for transformation
Honesty is one of the central forces that enable us to change our perceptual premise and regulate the process of transformation harmoniously, without disconnects or inner gaps.
Honesty holds a willingness for a direct and clear dialog. This is a willingness to hold an internal and external dialog, free of defenses and concealment mechanisms, an open and aware discourse that allows one to be direct with himself, with the cosmic self, seeking to guide him on his path, as well as with others.
Honesty creates a psyche that is not split between what one shows on the outside and that which is on the inside. This is a realm in which the individual conducts himself in such a manner where his words speak that which is in the heart, and his external conduct correlates to his inner world. Such authentic conduct allows one to establish reciprocal relations with himself and with others, based on integrity and directness, paving an unadorned path. This is a path free of obstacles, fluent and pragmatic that does not waste mental resources on concealment mechanisms, pleasing, repression, and restraint, but rather channels mental resources to support the distilled will and heart’s desire by taking responsibility, creating transformation, change and evolution.
The inner honesty, exposure, and directness are the products of a willingness to let go of and change habits that stem from the ego and generate motion in a closed circle of lack of honesty, which prevents a complete transformation.
What is the closed circle of lack of honesty?
Leading ego → low self-esteem, insignificance, feeling of separateness, insufficiency → a polarized, comparative and classified self-perception → begets judgment and negation of the self and others → the judgment and negation evoke pain and discord → all of these enhance vulnerability → vulnerability begets defense mechanisms → the defense mechanisms create a veil of apathy → that may lead to arbitrariness and obtuseness → the vulnerability and apathy lead to mechanisms of concealment from the self and from others, blurring and lack of honesty → resulting in the limitation of the personal “field of vision”→ leaving a low perspective identified with the ego which expresses insignificance, lack of self-esteem, comparison and insufficiency → narrowing the spectrum of free choice and resulting in a confined life path → this creates habits and behavioral patterns that are skewed and lack directness → stories fabricated by the ego that creates a narrative evading clear inner dialogue → constituting a justification to preserve the ego’s agenda → and the stipulations trapped in the closed circle → the different stories constitute justification mechanisms that evade taking responsibility.
The closed circle of dishonesty traps the individual in the stories that serve the absence of transformation and preserve a deficient and distorted perceptual premise.
It is possible to dissolve the closed circle by an inner commitment to honesty.
What is the Empowering Circle of Honesty?
A commitment towards the distilled self self-acceptance based on love and lack of judgment exposure and willingness to pass through pain honesty: transparency, awareness, clarity, directness and openness opening the field of vision towards areas that are uncomfortable or unpleasant to look at changing the perceptual premise taking responsibility and conscious free choice